Has your sex life become a bit boring and predictable? That’s if you are having it in the first place 😩. For some couples and people, sex is more of a distant memory. If this applies to you, you don’t need to be embarrassed it is totally understandable. Most people already have so much to deal with every day from work or school, to a struggling economy, being present for family and many other different challenges we all have to face on a day to day. These challenges might get in the way of great sex or any sex. But if you are ready to spice things up, here are a few tips.
1. Communicate
When it comes to sex, the one thing that Grace will always advocate for is communication! Talking to your partner about your desires leads to better sex and a healthier relationship. Don’t be scared to tell your partner what you like and don't like. Share your most intimate fantasies and desires even the ones you think are a little crazy and might make you sound freaky. You might never know until you say something. If talking about this feels a bit awkward to you, try other ways; write it down, share a video, or send a text message. Be creative!
2. Know yourself
Don’t leave all the work to your partner. They are not magicians but you can help them to be😉. To do this, you’ll need to spend some time discovering what you like and what turns you on. In short, you might need to play with yourself a little. Not sure where to start? Check this out!
3. Experiment
Sometimes the reason why sex has been monotonous for you is that you do the same thing every time. The same place, the same position, the same time and so on. Spice things up and go for something outside the norm. It could be anything; oral sex, bondage, blindfolding, using sex toys, masturbation, role play the list goes on and on.
4. Be spontaneous
Experimentation is also closely linked to being spontaneous. Here we are talking about more of the time and place. For example, sex doesn’t have to be at night when the lights are off on your bed. It could be in the morning when you first wake up. It can also be in the shower. Sometimes you could start from the couch to the floor, then on the bed. If you are not sure how you could initiate being spontaneous. Try this!
5. Don’t skip the foreplay
The time spent touching, caressing and kissing should never be taken for granted. Take your time there’s no rush! Foreplay helps you get aroused and makes sex even more pleasurable. Some experts also advise that foreplay should start days before the actual action. This is more about mental foreplay and less about the physical. For example, try to be more attentive, perform nice gestures, and compliments and share nice comments.
6. Use lubrication
The female body naturally makes its lubricant what we call the arousal fluid. However, sometimes this fluid might not be enough. Hormonal fluctuations during your cycle could cause some vaginal dryness especially if you are approaching menopause and this can make sex painful. Now, this is where some lubrication comes in handy. A water-based lubricant is safest to use with condoms.
7. Exercise
Working out is not just beneficial for losing weight, it also boosts stamina in bed and puts you in the mood. Exercise creates a more toned body, which improves self-esteem and makes you feel sexier when you take off your clothes. For starters, try doing an aerobic activity at least twice a week and then strength training once a week.
8. Orgasm before penetration
It’s a well-known fact that most women do not orgasm through penetration. Take advantage of other types of sex like oral sex which helps most women climax. Anything you get after that comes us more of a bonus. Besides, you're fully and properly aroused, the vagina expands and gets wet while the genital tissue becomes engorged with blood. This helps intercourse and penetration feel good rather than painful or uncomfortable.
9. Try a change of scenery
Perhaps all you need to spice up your sex life is a change of scenery. Plan a nice trip, it could be out of town or a staycation in your local vicinity. It doesn’t have to be too far. Whatever shouts romantic for you both. Spend time away from your phones, preferably keep your phones off and just connect with one another. This could be a good time to try something new too.
10. Quality over quantity
Don’t be lied to, there’s no right amount of times you need to have sex. That’s just a myth. The most important thing is to ensure you are both satisfied and enjoying yourselves. More sex doesn't mean better sex. Focus on how much pleasure you and your partner are experiencing during any one session.
The takeaway
If your sex life has been uneventful you can try some of these tips to spice things up. Remember do not be afraid to communicate and try something outside your comfort zone. It might just be what you need.
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